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How to Cope with Loneliness When You Have No One Around

If you’re currently struggling with loneliness, believe me – you’re not the only one. In fact, you’re not even close to being the only one. In 2023, the U.S. Department of Health declared loneliness an “epidemic.” This means that millions of people around the world are quietly asking themselves the same thing you are right now: How do I deal with loneliness when I have no one?

Loneliness can show up in different ways. You can sit alone in your apartment and feel empty. Or you can sit in a crowded room full of people and still feel cut off, as if no one truly sees you. And that’s the kind of pain that can be the hardest. As writer Jean-Paul Sartre once said: “If you are lonely when you’re alone, you are in bad company.” This sentence reminds us that we can learn how to be with ourselves – and that there are steps we can take to overcome this quiet pain.

In this article, I want to share simple and practical ways to cope with the feeling of loneliness when you don’t have anyone by your side.

Understanding Loneliness

What Loneliness Really Means

Many people confuse loneliness with solitude, but they’re not the same thing. Solitude itself isn’t bad – sometimes it’s even healing. Those are the moments when you’re home alone with a book, listening to music, taking a walk in nature, and actually feeling at peace. Solitude can be the space where you reconnect with yourself.

Loneliness, however, is something else entirely. It’s the feeling of emptiness, of something missing – of not having anyone to share your thoughts, joy, or pain with. And that feeling can hurt more than a physical wound. No wonder experts say that symptoms of loneliness can even affect our bodies – from fatigue and insomnia, to poor concentration and an increased risk of depression.

When you find yourself in that silence without the warmth of others, your thoughts start creating their own stories: “No one understands me.” … “No one needs me.” … “No one is here for me.” And these very thoughts only make loneliness stronger. That’s why it’s important to understand – loneliness is not just a physical state, but an emotional experience that can change the way you see yourself and the world around you.

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Why You Might Feel Lonely Even When You’re Not Alone

Here’s something many people experience: you can have a phone full of contacts, hundreds of “friends” on social media, and still wake up with the thought: “I feel so alone.” Why?

There are several reasons. Sometimes loneliness comes after big life changes – moving to a new city, a breakup, or losing friendships. Other times it’s connected to the society we live in. Today it’s normal to spend lots of time in front of screens, in digital conversations where the real connection is missing – the hug, the eye contact, the presence.

Psychologists also say that loneliness can be triggered by unfulfilled expectations. Maybe you’re surrounded by people, but you feel they don’t understand you. Maybe you talk, but the conversations stay on the surface. It’s no surprise that so many people talk about loneliness and depression, because the feeling that no one sees or hears you can slowly wear down your mental health.

9 Signs You’re Struggling With Loneliness

Loneliness doesn’t always show up only in your thoughts – often you feel it in your body and daily life. If you recognize yourself in any of the signs below, it means your body and mind are calling for more connection, warmth, and attention.

  1. You Feel Empty Even When You’re Not Alone– You can sit on a couch surrounded by people, yet still feel empty inside. This is one of the clearest symptoms of loneliness – the feeling that no one truly understands or sees you.
  2. You Struggle To Connect On A Deeper Level– Maybe you have acquaintances, but the conversations stop at the surface. When you’re lonely, it feels like there’s a wall between you and others. And that wall is what causes the pain.
  3. You Don’t Have Close Friends Or Family Support– Many people say: “I feel so alone, I have no friends.” And this isn’t just a phrase – it’s a reality that can feel very heavy. The sense of having no one to share the good or the bad with often leads to loneliness and depression.
  4. You Withdraw From Social Situations- Instead of going out or chatting, you’d rather retreat into yourself. At first, it seems like you’re protecting your energy, but in reality, it often means loneliness is taking control.
  5. You Have Trouble Sleeping Or Concentrating– Loneliness isn’t just an emotion – it affects the brain too. People who feel lonely for long periods often have restless sleep, trouble focusing, and weaker memory.
  6. You Experience Increased Stress And Anxiety– When you’re lonely, your body often releases more stress hormones. That’s why you feel tense, nervous, and like it’s hard to breathe. It’s a quiet sign that your body is fighting the feeling of isolation.
  7. You Lose Interest In Things You Once Enjoyed– Maybe you used to enjoy reading, sports, or walks, but now nothing brings you joy. This is a clear sign that loneliness is slowly draining your energy.
  8. You Feel Constantly Tired– Even if you sleep enough hours, you wake up without energy. Often this is the result of inner emptiness and a lack of emotional connection.
  9. You Experience Physical Issues Without A Clear Reason– Headaches, stomach pain, or muscle tension can surprisingly be a symptom of loneliness. The body often tells us what we don’t want to admit: that we’re missing warmth and closeness.

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Learn To See Loneliness As An Opportunity For Growth

I know it sounds strange – “how can being alone be an opportunity?” But it really can be. Loneliness is not always the enemy. It can be a space where you pause and ask yourself: “What is missing in my life? What do I want more of? What is draining my energy?”

This is the moment you truly get to know yourself. When you’re not overwhelmed by people, your phone, or noise. Solitude can show you what you really carry inside. Instead of running away from it, try sitting with it and seeing it as a mirror. This is the first step to turning loneliness to your advantage – to start learning about yourself and maybe finally changing the things that no longer serve you.

Accept The Uncomfortable Feelings

When you feel “I feel so alone,” your first reaction is often to escape. Open your phone, turn on the TV, eat endlessly … anything to avoid feeling. But the truth? The more you run, the more the feelings come back.

Instead, you can tell yourself: “Okay, I feel lonely right now. It’s here. It won’t kill me. But it’s a sign that I need something.” Just like a wound that hurts as it heals, loneliness hurts because something inside you is renewing. Accepting these feelings gives you power – because you no longer let them control you.

Do Something For Yourself

If you’re spending time alone anyway, why not use it for yourself? Cook that meal you’ve been putting off. Go to the movies or a café by yourself. Have a mini home spa. Create something with your hands. Paint your living room. Make your own home décor. Go to a Pilates class. Go for a run in the park.

It’s not just about “filling time.” It’s about teaching yourself to connect solitude with pleasant things, not with pain. This way you train your brain to see that the feeling of being alone does not have to equal the feeling of being lonely.

Write A Journal – And Tell It Everything

A journal isn’t just for teenagers. It’s one of the most healing tools for adults. When your mind is spinning and you don’t know how to move forward, take a sheet of paper and write:

  • What am I feeling right now?
  • What would I like to change?
  • What am I grateful for despite everything?

This is a way to release heavy thoughts from your head. And yes, even though it sounds simple, it works. It has been proven to reduce symptoms of loneliness and even depression, because it helps you notice the brighter side you can’t always see in a lonely moment.

Actively Look For Community

One of the hardest things when you feel lonely is believing that “you have no one.” But that isn’t true. Communities exist everywhere. And right now, someone is waiting for you – at a yoga class, in the library, in a volunteer group, or in an online forum for people living alone.

Loneliness often happens because we’re cut off from community. When you step out and connect, that heavy feeling of “I have no friends” slowly begins to melt away. Start small. You don’t need to find a best friend right away. It’s enough to find a space where you can breathe together with others again.

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If You Can, Adopt A Pet

Animals are truly special companions. A dog, a cat, or even something smaller can give you the feeling that you’re not alone. You don’t need much – just their presence, the way they snuggle, or how they greet you when you walk through the door. Sometimes that’s the very feeling we miss the most.

If you have a dog, you’ll need to go for walks, even when you don’t feel like it. And that’s actually a good thing – it gets you outside, among people. You might meet a neighbor, exchange a few words with another dog owner … and suddenly you feel a little more connected. And if you can’t keep a pet at home, consider volunteering at an animal shelter. There you’re not only helping them, but also yourself, because you gain the contact you need.

Create A Routine

Loneliness feels the hardest when the day drags on without meaning. When you wake up and don’t know what to do, negative thoughts creep in quickly. That’s why having a routine helps – it gives your day some structure.

I’m not talking about a perfect schedule from morning to evening. Just pick a few simple things you do every day: wake up at the same time, drink your coffee, take a short walk, try to cook at the same time. These small habits give you a sense of control over your day. And when you feel like you’re succeeding at something, loneliness becomes easier to carry.

Let Books Or Podcasts Keep You Company

Silence is sometimes what makes the feeling of loneliness even heavier. That’s why it’s great to have something that “keeps you company.” Books, podcasts, or even audiobooks are a good choice.

Podcasts about what you’re going through can show you that you’re not the only one asking “why do I feel so alone?” A book can pull you into another world and take away the emptiness for a while. And sometimes, that’s exactly what you need.

Start Investing Time In Your Goals And Dreams

Loneliness isn’t pleasant, but you can turn it to your advantage. Now is the perfect time to redirect your energy into something that will fulfill you long term. Think about it – how many things have you put off with the excuse “I don’t have time”?

Start simple: write down a list of goals. They don’t have to be “big” – it could be learning a new skill, improving your cooking, reading more, starting a small project, learning a language … anything that sparks a sense of progress in you. Goals give you direction and structure. Instead of staying stuck in emptiness, you gain a reason to wake up with a little more motivation.

And you know what? It doesn’t matter if you don’t reach your goal in a month. What matters is taking small steps forward. This will slowly but surely start to move you away from feelings of loneliness and depression and bring back a sense of purpose.

Move Your Body Regularly

When you feel lonely, the temptation is strong: crawl into bed, turn on a series, and let the day slip away. But that only pushes you deeper into emptiness. Movement is one of the most natural ways to cope with feeling lonely.

You don’t need to become an athlete. You don’t need to buy expensive equipment. Simple things are enough: a short walk outside, gentle stretching, dancing to music you love. That’s when the happiness hormones (endorphins) kick in, slowly “switching off” the feeling of loneliness.

If possible, try group activities too – yoga, dance, fitness, or a sports club. Not only are you moving your body, but you also get the chance to meet people who are looking for the same thing as you: company and a bit of motivation.

What Not to Do When You Feel Lonely

1. Don’t Look for Quick Fixes

When loneliness hurts, it’s tempting to reach for things that temporarily ease the emptiness—alcohol, overeating, mindless scrolling on social media, or impulsive shopping. These may give a short “mood boost,” but in the long run, they only increase the feeling of emptiness.

If you tell yourself, “Just one glass will relax me,” or scroll through Instagram hoping to forget your loneliness, you’ll likely wake up the next day feeling even more alone. Why? Because you haven’t addressed the cause—you’ve just temporarily wrapped it in a shiny package. Instead, ask yourself: What would truly bring me a sense of satisfaction right now? Maybe a short walk or creating something small that brings you joy.

2. Don’t Shut Yourself Off

One of the most common traps of loneliness is withdrawing even more. You might think, “I have no one,” and then avoid the small opportunities that could help—like a walk, socializing with coworkers, or volunteering.

When you disconnect from the world, loneliness only grows. And I understand—it’s not easy to go out when you feel low. But every small step counts. Instead of fully isolating yourself, set a goal: “Today, I’ll spend at least 10 minutes with people.” This could be a shop assistant, a neighbor, or even a conversation in an online forum with people who understand you.

3. Don’t Feed Your Negative Inner Voice

When you’re lonely, another unpleasant symptom often appears—negative self-talk. Thoughts like, “No one likes me, I’m unworthy of company, I’ll always be alone,” can quickly spiral, turning loneliness into feelings of inferiority or even depression.

If you catch yourself thinking this way, stop and ask: Would I say these words to a friend feeling the same? Probably not. So why say them to yourself? Loneliness is just a sign that your life currently needs more connection. And that’s something you can work on.

4. Don’t Compare Yourself Too Much to Others

Social media can be the biggest trigger when you’re alone. You see people hanging out, traveling, with partners… and quickly think: “I’m completely alone, my life is empty.” The truth is, online you only see selected moments—not the nights when they feel just as lonely as you do.

Comparing yourself only deepens the feeling that “you’re not enough” and that you’ll never get out of it. If you notice social media triggers these feelings, take a break. Limit your use and instead invest energy in things that truly bring you satisfaction in the here and now.

5. Don’t Ignore Your Feelings

Many people think, “It will pass, I won’t think about it.” But pushing loneliness inside is like trying to squeeze a balloon without letting the air out—it will eventually explode somewhere. If you feel lonely, acknowledge it: “I really am alone, and this is hard.” When we recognize our feelings, it becomes easier to process them and start looking for solutions.

6. Don’t Put the Responsibility for Your Happiness on Others

Loneliness is an unpleasant feeling, but it’s crucial not to expect someone else to always “fix” your problem. This doesn’t mean you have to struggle alone, but that you actively look for ways to deal with loneliness and cope with being by yourself. Waiting for someone to come and fill the emptiness can leave you feeling even more alone.

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