How To Simply Stop Worrying About What Others Think
We all love a sense of belonging, but some people lose control and spend too much energy and time worrying about what others think of them. Not only are such people unhappy, but they lose themselves and their precious power, which they pass on to other people around them. And they blend in completely with their surroundings while suppressing their own opinions. It is surely clear to you that today we are going to talk about how to stop worrying about what others think.
I came across a saying from Marcus Aurelius: “All we hear is an opinion, not fact. All we see is a perspective, not the truth“, Deep thought, right? I always say that we create our own reality and shape our beliefs.
Do you ever stop and actively listen to your thoughts? What will you wear? Do you give up on goals just because others think it’s completely pointless? When you don’t voice your opinion just because it probably wouldn’t be accepted in current society? Maybe give up your habits and take on the habits of your loved ones?…
I don’t think they would make it to the end. I want to remind you not to lose yourself and your inner spark just to belong to the surroundings. This difference that every person in the world carries inside is something that makes each individual unique. Even though you may think you won’t be heard, don’t be afraid to speak up. We are all just expressing the opinions and beliefs we have at that moment.
Once you overcome this obstacle of worrying about what others think of you, your life will become truly good. Worrying is useful when it leads to a solution to a problem, but when it leads to unhealthy strain and stress, it constantly distracts you from the present moment. At the same time, you lose moments from your horizon that you can no longer get back.
Humans often misjudge
In 2017, a scientific study was conducted at the University of California. Participants were asked to rate how attractive, likable, and intelligent other participants were. Surprisingly, it was found that people often misjudged the opinions of others and rated them more negatively than others actually rated them.
As we can see, we can often mistakenly conclude what others think. This helps to understand that our own self-image and inner judgment is more important than what others supposedly think of us.
The consequences of worrying about what others think
Have you ever wondered what are the consequences of constantly worrying about other people’s opinions? Well, I did. It is important to understand that we are not responsible for other people’s opinions and that we can focus on our own happiness and satisfaction. Unnecessary stress can have serious consequences on the emotional and psychological state.
The most common consequences:
- Stress and anxiety
- Low self-confidence and poor self-esteem (We begin to doubt ourselves and our abilities. This affects the ability to realize our goals and develop our potential.)
- Limiting authenticity (Worrying what others think can lead to pretending or adapting to meet others’ expectations.)
- Decreased self-esteem (Feelings of inferiority or unworthiness of love and respect come.)
- Limitations of potential (If we worry too much about what others think of us, we may be afraid to step out of our comfort zone or follow our passions and dreams)
- Limiting the expression of one’s own opinion
- Lack of decisiveness (Following others, limits our autonomy and independence in making decisions)
- Loss of identity (Too much attachment to the opinions of others can lead to the loss of oneself.)
- More frequent conflicts in relationships
- Decrease in self-actualization
“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.”
—Lao Tzu
So let’s see how to stop worrying about what others think:
Identify the source of anxiety and excessive worry about what others think
Take time to reflect and discover the source of these thoughts. Most of the time our thoughts come from a source of insecurity, so identify your fears. Once you are aware of the origin and in which environment the fear arose, you will be able to start making changes. This is why awareness is important.
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Focus on the present moment
People jump too much into the past with our thoughts over which we have no control. And we are worried about the future, which has not even begun to unfold. And so there are unnecessary worries, like what others will think. This is why mindfulness is useful, we are committed to the present moment and observe this moment from every possible angle. It is better stored in our memory than in the case when we are absent and with our thoughts in the future or the past.
What do people really think of you?
You don’t know the answer to this question. There’s a reason you can’t see into other people’s heads and thoughts. Therefore, creating a negative mindset and anticipating what others will think is completely wasteful. You are harming yourself and creating a negative atmosphere.
Why not think about feeling your best in your own skin and grooming yourself accordingly? This is how you create a positive atmosphere and love for yourself. Even if you wanted to please everyone, you wouldn’t succeed. We all have different thoughts and perceptions, so don’t try to please others. You will be happiest when you please yourself.
”How people treat you is their karma; how are you
Wayne Dyer
you answer that it’s yours”
Build a wall
You worry too much about what others think of you, this fear has been influenced by the opinions and criticisms of others. Were there people who voiced a certain opinion or even a negative voice? Therefore, I advise you to avoid such opinions create a wall, and don’t let them steal your sparks. And they create fear and pressure in you that will always lift and burden you with what others think.
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The opinion of these people is theirs and learn to listen only to yourself and your feelings. Instead of looking at your mistakes as something bad, think of them as something you did that was noticed. It means someone noticed and took the time to mention and criticize. Create a new mental shift about accepting opinions and criticism and you will see that others will no longer have an influence on your mindset and will no longer be a burden on you.
Keep a journal
One of the ways to relieve stress is to write a journal. Not only will it relieve your head, but it will also encourage you to self-discovery. Describe all the feelings that surround you, which concerns most often appear in your mind, why you think the way you do, how you feel about it, and the like.
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Don’t please others
Many people also face this. Some people please their parents and don’t follow their dreams. Others do not dare to take risks and ever try themselves because their friends remain the same, others listen to a partner who does not believe in them, so they surrender to fate.
Create a way out of such situations as soon as possible, you are the creator of your life. That’s why you create your own path to follow, if you need an opinion or advice you can still ask for it. But don’t take what other people think about your goal or dream personally. Who will believe in you if you don’t believe in yourself?
Practice self-love
This point is very important. If you have a connected, accepting, and loving relationship with yourself, you probably wouldn’t be reading this article at all. This point is my key as it helped me too. When I stood in complete darkness, lost. I started to create a friendship with myself. And my path was illuminated. And so, my own well-being jumped to the first place in my life. I am aware that with my mood and energy I “infect” everything around me.
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When you build a loving relationship with yourself, negative thoughts and worries about what others think will gradually begin to disappear. Just don’t have high expectations that such thoughts will disappear completely.
“What others think of me is none of my business”
You are tasked with cramming this sentence deep into your memory. We said above that you don’t really need to guess what other people are thinking because you don’t have that insight. This point says that you really don’t care what other people think about you. If you feel good in your own skin and good feelings surround you, then there is no need to worry about what others have to say.
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As I said, there will always be people who don’t like something about you. What thoughts and rumors are shared by others should be none of your business. Because others will create their own bubble that you simply must not respond to. And once you understand and adjust your mindset in the direction that you don’t care about other people’s opinions, but only work to make you happy, you will create true happiness.
Don’t try to be perfect
Humans are not perfect beings, we carry a load of mistakes behind us. You have to understand that you don’t have to be perfect in every way. Even if you prepare for something completely, just a little bit of unexpected change can destroy your perfect vision. So start accepting your mistakes, start accepting yourself as an imperfect being. People who worry too much about what others think also want to attract perfection from themselves. But sooner rather than later, defeat and disappointment can await you here.
You know yourself best
Other people create rumors all the time, the interesting fact here is that they don’t know your life. Here’s another reason why worrying about what others think of you is unnecessary. I myself avoid such people because I think I am not a judge to be able to judge another person’s life. That’s why I quickly run away from such conversations and people. Everyone knows best only their own story and behind the scenes, and everyone has complications and problems, so it is right to save our own life and comment less on the lives of others.
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For the end
We have come to the end, be aware that life is too short to constantly worry and live in stress about what others think of you. My purpose is to encourage you to create the life you dream of, and this article is an additional ingredient I want to offer you. Stop worrying about what others think, realize your long-standing wishes, step into the world of independence, and accept responsibility for your own happiness. I will be happy if you leave a comment or share the article further. All the best until next time.
